***There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.*** ∼ George Sand
Love is a fickle thing that is hard to define, yet we all feel it, understand it, and need it.
The problem is love cannot be controlled, but that doesn’t mean you can’t tip the scales in your favor, especially if you want a guy to fall in love with you. After all, there are no rules to follow if love is your ultimate goal.
Interestingly enough, if you want a man to fall in love with you, then it may be a good idea to consider using absence in your favor.
The idea that being away from your man is actually good for your relationship may sound counterproductive, but the reality is that it often works.
You’ll learn how to use this tool, why it works, and why you need it in the first place.
Why is it Hard to Keep Guys Interested?
It would be nice if there was a love potion that could ensure that love would last forever like in those romantic movies and stories people have told for ages.
As much as I would like to tell you this is possible for everyone, it is not the case.
“People do fall out of love, and it isn’t a guy thing either. This can happen to either sex.”
Now, there are some people who can be effective long-term partners, but there are others who simply aren’t equipped to stay with one person.
This happens for a lot of reasons, like the following:
One thing that seems to lead to a problem deals with failing to connect emotionally.
This kind of connection is hard to attain because it requires vulnerability, and that is not easy for some people to give into.
The idea is to connect on an emotional level by having poignant conversations regarding deeper subjects, such as dreams, fears, failures, trust, or insecurities to name a few. Attempting to draw these conversations out is hard, so many partners give up, which is one thing that begins to hurt love.
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Cultivating the Negative
The brain’s own chemistry might also lead to some men falling out of love. No one wants to de-mystify love, but there are a few chemicals involved when you fall in love and when you fall out of love.
It’s important that you understand how these chemicals can affect your lover if you want to find a way to fight back. The reality is that if only negative feelings are cultivated in the relationship, then you are going to be actively suppressing neurotransmitters, like dopamine and serotonin.
For those who do not know, serotonin and dopamine are essential to feeling good. Plus, they also do wonders for your partner’s testosterone levels.
If your lifestyle or relationship suppresses these important neurotransmitters, that feeling you call love might diminish.
“And, voila, negative feelings are creeping in.”
Those negative feelings can begin to be unfairly associated with you, which could end up hurting this relationship.
The solution being that you both have to work on making sure you offer each other some respite from stress. You have to work on having fun.
You have to work on having fun
Promoting positive feelings you can both share can be done in a number of ways, from going to a fair or watching a movie to something a little more intimate that you both enjoy.
Be as creative as possible, but make sure it is something you both find enjoyable.
Love is something you have to work on; it is not something that just remains despite not doing anything for each other.
Failing to cherish love and cultivate it in some of the ways just mentioned could make some men fall out of love.
Does this mean it is all up to you? No, your man has to be involved and willing to go on this journey with you so that the love for each other grows. I think you should try to talk to him about some of these ideas so that you can both work on them.
Keeping your man interested is hard because we all have trouble communicating with each other, because of chemical biology, and because stress is hard to fight.
As you can see, you aren’t powerless against these forces, and you have one more powerful tool to use to keep your man from falling out of love: distance.
Why Do Men Fall in Love When They Miss You?
So, do guys fall in love when they miss you? Distance or absence, even if it is for a short period of time, can be helpful tools for those who want love to be successful.
While there are no guarantees, this particular tool is an effective one you cannot overlook.
The following is meant to help you understand why love seems to be injected with a little more power, thanks to absence:
Value Perception – When a guy says he misses you what does it mean?
Have you ever wondered why precious stones are more valuable than regular stones you find? It has nothing with the beauty of the stone but rather the availability of the stone.
“Precious stones are valued more simply because they are not as available as regular stones.”
You are going to have to use this natural instinct to value rare things to understand why your absence can help your relationship.
What you are going to be doing is making your time and presence more precious to your man by leaving him for a moment.
In essence, you are using his natural instinct in your favor.
Keep in mind that this is not something that only affects him; it is also going to affect you. All the time apart is going to make your reunion much more intense and passionate.
I recommend not overusing this. You want to make your partner feel you like actually abandoned him for too long. Plus, you are going to have to keep the spark on while you are gone, and that means COMMUNICATION.
And communication AND understanding are crucial in a relationship…
Because if you want to trigger passionate feelings of adoration and attraction in a man… you have to know how to get on the same emotional frequency with him.
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The communication you are going to have with your man while you are away is going to help intensify your love as well.
The reason this happens deals with the limited amount of time you have to talk to each other.
This means you’ll have less time to discuss small things, and you’ll prioritize larger, deeper conversations.
You are going to be allowing intimacy to grow at a rate that might not happen when you are together.
These short conversations also allow both of you to only share the things you are happy to share.
Sharing only the good stuff allows you to be idolized, and it allows you to idolize your partner, which helps intensify feelings for each other.
Again, I think it is important to highlight the importance of communication in any relationship even a long-distance one.
Time spent together is great, but if it’s continuous, then it may not feel so great after some time. Continuous time together can expose you to each other’s issues, the kinds of things that can bother either him or you.
“Spending too much time with each other could become irritating, and that is definitely not what you want.”
This is not to say that you cannot become inseparable at some point, but it takes a certain level of love maturity to be able to do this with your partner. Young lovers may not be prepared to spend so much time together.
Being Against Uncertainty
People love certainty, and by people we mean humanity in general.
This is not to say that every single person is like this, but most people want some level of certainty in their lives. Being in a situation that makes things feel uncertain can make most of us feel uneasy.
That uneasiness that some people feel is another thing you’ll be creating with your absence.
“All people want some level of certainty in their lives”
You are going to be feeling a little uneasy about being away from each other, especially if you’ve been with each other for a long time.
You’ve gotten used to specific patterns that involve both of you, and being away from that can bring forth anxiety.
The anxiety and uneasiness you both feel is something you don’t want to feel much longer. This is going to make both of you hunger for each other more than usual.
The guy you are with is definitely going to feel that hunger, and it may help him strengthen his love for you.
You should also remember that uncertainty can lead to fear, which is one of the strongest emotions people can feel.
Fear of losing you because you aren’t together can help fuel his love and desire for you. Breaking it down this way may not sound too romantic, but it really is if you think about it.
His fear of losing you propels him to love you more.
This tells you that deep down he really does know how important you are. Do not mistake this as falsifying or creating a situation where he might actually lose you.
No one is telling you to flirt with others to make him fear losing you. Your absence and his own imagination will do a lot of work for you.
Hopefully, you can see why making your man miss you is such a valuable tool in your tool chest. It can do wonders for a relationship that is just starting or a relationship that needs a little jolt.
Remember that love takes work, patience, and time, so do not despair if you aren’t seeing the results you want to see too quickly.
Do not despair because things feel a little difficult from time to time because things that are worth it are worth the struggle.
You should also understand, that there is a missing link in almost every romantic relationship.
Is it communication? Romantic dates? Is it sex?
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