There all kinds of resources for therapy that help with break-ups. You can visit with a psychologist, therapist, social worker or minister.
You can also turn to online self-help sites. Sites and specialists exist that focus specifically on relationships.
3. Become A Better Person And A Better Communicator through Exercise and Diet
Commit to exercise and a healthy diet during breakups. Don’t give way to unhealthy choices aimed at coping with the pain and process.
Not only is this bad for your health, but your ex will think you have lost control of your life. If your life has become worse during the breakup, an ex is likely not going to commit.
Healthy eating and daily exercise of at least thirty minutes will help you stay in shape physically and emotionally. A strong mind and body present a strong person. It changes your thinking.
Because especially when you are not feeling well, you might be using dangerous words and phrases that affect your man much more than you might realize. (Most women do this without even knowing it, and accidentally kill their man’s attraction towards them)
The good news is, you can make a simple shift in your thinking that can bring a level of attraction, love, and security to your relationships that you never imagined was possible!
4. Facilitate Stronger Friendships and Support Systems
Your friends may have taken a back seat during the relationship, or they may have just not been involved as much with your life. Let them know why you were absent and ask them to be more involved.
Sometimes you may need to apologize to friends for your emphasis on your ex and not them. Be humble and do this if needed. You will know.
If friends refuse to return messages and calls, then an apology is likely warranted.
“Make suggestions to hang out and catch up. Just be sure not to make everything about the breakup.”
Make time with friends about what you and your friends enjoy. If your repeated attempts to reconnect with friends go without success, then take the efforts to make new friends.
Don’t beat yourself up about who is and who is not in your life.
5. Find Time for Family, Honest Feedback and Personal Growth
Your family is your rock, and they have shown you over the years what true commitment means. When an ex won’t commit, it is best to be around people that understand your take on commitment.
Who can do this more than your family?
Make time for those that commit to you and that share your views about commitment.
Family members are good to have around for many reasons. We already mentioned that they know your needs and goals, but they also know how to identify times when you might not be doing your best. If they offer feedback or advice, do not fight back.
Value the input of those that value you.
6. Work More and Achieve More with Your Career
While we don’t suggest that you burn yourself out, we do suggest that you find more value in your work during break-up transitions.
Take the extra time you now have to focus on work skills that you’ve been wanting to learn. Look for networking opportunities at night that coincide with your career field.
You might be constantly thinking about things like my ex didn’t want to commit, does the dumper come back, etc. etc… But don’t let your break-up bog you down at work. In no way should you try to use your breakup as an excuse for under-performing at work.
We all go through trials. Show yourself and everyone else how strong you really are.
Be sure to take this time to prove that you and your work will only get better, even during a breakup.
7. Volunteer to Meet People and Make An Impact
The team at Mend has all kinds of great suggestions to help you through a breakup and when dealing with non-committal exes. One of the suggestions they offer is volunteering.
You believe that if you can get them to open up, the commitment issues will cease. You think the relationship will come back together. Let them take the time needed to figure out what makes them uncomfortable about commitment.
Give them space to decide if they want to get back together with you.
10. If He Returns to the Relationship, Move Slowly
Sometimes exes do come back, and relationships do last the second time around. Especially when you know how to make that happen.
If your ex returns and commits to goals you have for your relationship, you must be certain not to force everything you want right away. The two of you discussed your goals, and he committed. You are now back together.
Give him and the relationship some time to see how this goes.
When couples get back together, they must be careful not to rush things. You need to make sure over time that your boyfriend is aligning with commitment goals, and you need to make sure that time apart didn’t cause you two to take on other goals not conducive for round two of your relationship.
You will know if things are not moving along as they should.
You know how to identify issues. Be sure that during this process you incorporate strategies, skills and activities that take the pressure off of your partner, you and your relationship.
The ten steps above are designed to help you deal with the break-up and to make your ex commit.
Even if you and your ex don’t get back together, you will now be an even better person.
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Jason Fladien is an author and relationship coach living in Toronto.
He used to struggle so much in his own love life that he decided to learn everything there is to achieve such level of understanding at which he'd not only be able to completely change his life but also help others to change theirs.
Now he's on a mission to help others achieve effortless and happy relationships as he believes that relationships are the most important thing in life.
He was featured on marriage.com, theurbandater.com, and many others.