Loving Yourself First
We are often insecure when it comes to love. However, when you start with loving yourself, and I mean really loving yourself, then you have the ability to attract a partner that is capable of loving you for who you are. We have all been taught that you can not truly love someone until you love yourself. So to test where your self-love lies I present you with a small challenge.
If you are asking “how to make him commit without pressure”, start with this – Look at yourself in the mirror. It is important to make eye contact. Tell yourself I love you. If you have a hard time believing this, then you need to focus more on loving yourself before you can expect someone else to be able to love you.
Do this daily to ensure that you are rebuilding your relationship with yourself so you can help create a path for a loving and healthy relationship.
Practices For Building Self-Love
- Positive affirmations
- Be kind to yourself
- Help others in need
- Laugh at yourself when you make mistakes
- Look at yourself in the mirror daily and profess your love
- Do what makes you happy
- Enjoy your own company
- Embrace what you are good at
- Compliment yourself
- Be authentic
Do Not Change For Anyone
We tend to push our true selves aside when a man enters our lives. We are nurturing by nature, and often we put aside our own needs to ensure others are happy.
However, this practice leads us to forget about ourselves, and eventually we feel incomplete. Next time you meet a man that you are interested in, remember to be genuine. After all, if you start a relationship with a charade, then it will eventually fail.
In all honesty, you only want a strong man who will support you for who you are.
Do not give up hope, and most importantly remember to be true to yourself. Believe it or not, men actually love a woman that is courageous, loving, and believes in herself. Therefore, remember to embrace who you truly are, and let the world see you in your beautiful glory.
Do Not Compare Yourself To Other Women
According to Jordan Harbinger, when you compare yourself to others you are destroying your own joy. Therefore, it is necessary to stop looking at other women and wondering what they have that you do not. Not all men are only interested in money, sex, and a shallow relationship. In all honesty, they are more concerned with the quality of relationship that you can offer them.
Keep Things Fun And Relax
Stress has a way of ruining a great relationship, and over time issues tend to arise. Gerald Matiri from Panda Gossips has added some very helpful insight from a man’s perspective. He suggests that when you go out together that it is helpful to choose something fun.
Remember to be lively and enjoy yourself. Instead of opting to go to the movies, consider going bowling or playing putt-putt golf.
It is helpful to remember you are not competing, but rather, you are out for the night to have fun and enjoy each others company. Stay positive, and do not let others get to you.
If you feel like you can not get out of a gloomy phase, then it is a wise decision to focus on loving yourself once again. You have the power to change your thoughts, and it is very beneficial to refocus your thoughts to happier ones.
Keep Him Guessing
As much as you may want to run to his every beckon call, it is important to make yourself scarce.
When you are with someone all of the time your relationship can suffer greatly. This does not mean that you need to ignore him or leave him hanging, but it is wise to spend time outside of your relationship to ensure that it is strong and healthy. Remember, it is easier to miss someone when they are not always around.
How Do I Get A Commitment Without Asking For It?
- Be you
- Allow space when it is needed
- Get to know his friends
- Do not rush the relationship
- Practice understanding
- Listen to what he is saying
- Read his non-verbal language
How Do I Get Him To Commit To A Serious Relationship?
- Be available, but not needy
- Be patient, kind, loving, and understanding
- Understand his point of view
- Allow him to see you authentically
- Surprise him instead of waiting on him to surprise you
- Speak openly with him about your needs and desires, and remember to listen to his
To really get his attention and keep it on you; it is important to always be honest, and this includes being honest with yourself. It is hard to live up to another person’s expectations, and you do not have to alter your actions or personal beliefs to get a man to fall in love with you.
You will be surprised that they will appreciate the fact that you are authentic, and in turn they too can practice being genuine. Also, you might want to read our article on men with commitment issues.
However, you might be unknowingly ruining your chances by using dangerous words and phrases that affect your man much more than you might realize (Most women do this without even knowing it, and accidentally kill their man’s attraction towards them).
The good news is, you can make a simple shift in your thinking that can bring a level of attraction, love, and security to your relationships that you never imagined was possible. Click here to discover how to understand and attract any man.
Think And Talk Of Things That Do Not Pertain To Him
If you focus all of your attention and conversation on him, then you are working your way to going insane or dealing with a terrible heartache. Do not lose yourself in who he is, but rather, work together to bring out the best in one another.
It is helpful to allow yourself the right to live a life outside of his every action. If you are only focused on making him love you, then chances are you will only push him away and you are neglecting loving yourself.
It is important to keep in mind that you need your own personal space from time to time. Therefore, allow him this same time to relax and sort out his thoughts.
Do not push for affection, but remember to be affectionate. This can be as simple as holding his hand as you walk, cuddling on the couch, a pat on the back, or a small kiss. If you offer affection and he does not return it, then consider the fact that there is something weighing on his mind.
Remind Him That You Love Him
You do not have to suffocate him with kisses, forced embraces, or the constant reminder that you love him.
You can send a little note in his briefcase or lunch that reminds him that you think he is amazing. It is very important to remember that actions speak louder than words, and sometimes we forget to do the small things that matter most. Therefore, use this practice sparingly, and make sure that your actions are speaking loud and clear about how you feel about him.
If he pulls back, then allow him time to consider his own emotions. And if you’re frustrated with your man going cold, losing interest, or pulling away, then click here to learn how to prevent it.
Do Not Rely On Him To Make You Happy
If you are sad or in need of comforting, then it makes perfect sense to go to your partner for reassurance. However, when you rely on them to make you happy, you are only setting yourself up for failure.
He can not make you happy, but he can offer you love and support through a hard time in your life. If you find that he is down, then offer to listen to his troubles. Make sure you do not press the issue and allow him time to sort out his own emotions as well.
Set Standards And Boundaries Before You Start A Relationship
You can easily get swept away in a whirlwind romance, especially if this is the main thing on your mind. However, if you are just starting a relationship, then speak up when your standards are not met or your boundaries have been crossed. Consider how he reacts to your ability to speak up for yourself. If he grows angry or tries to blame you, then this is a red flag for a toxic person.
Toxic individuals will not respect you for your boundaries. As a matter of fact, they will push your boundaries just to see what they can get away with. It is always best to leave a toxic relationship as soon as you realize you are in one.
Red Flags To Look For That Let You Know A Person Is Toxic
- They easily get angry over anything.
- They never take responsibility for their actions.
- They put you down.
- They constantly try to change you.
- They tell you that no one else will ever love you like they do.
- They rush relationships way too much.
- They push boundaries.
- They mock your beliefs.
- They mirror you constantly.
- They intentionally make you feel insecure.
These are just a few signs to look for when you are starting a new relationship. Toxic people can be very charming, and they have a way of making you feel like you are head over heels for them. Remember to trust your gut, and if he seems too good to be true, then chances are he is not showing you his true colors.
Do Not Settle On Just Any Man
There are so many men in the world, and it may feel like you will never find the right one to live happily ever after with.
However, it is important to remember that you may have to date many men before finding the one that is just right for you. Commit yourself to finding a man that is willing to commit to you versus just settling for someone because you are tired of being alone.
Do Not Wait Forever
We all love to feel loved and desire a healthy relationship. However, it is necessary that you evaluate your situation and ask yourself if the person you desire is worth your effort. If you are doing the majority of the work in your relationship, then take a step back and consider the facts. As much as you may be ready for a commitment, he may not be ready to settle down just yet.
Ok, we have learned how to deal with a man who doesn’t want to commit. Now let’s have a look at how to actually attract someone, who wants to.
How To Attract A Man That Is Willing To Commit
If you have been in countless dead-end relationships, then it may be time to change your thought process.
Focus on what you want in a man. For instance, do you want him to be kind, loving, compassionate, romantic, etc. Once you know what you are looking for in a man, it becomes easier to attract the man you desire. It is important to make space in your life for the man of your dreams, even if you have not met him yet.
You can do this by clearing out space in your life. For example, free up half of the space in your closet, leave one side of your bed available, and make free time to spend with him. This practice will help introduce the fact that you are serious about committing to a loving relationship.
But even more importantly, if you want to trigger strong feelings of attraction and adoration in a man, you have to know how to get on the same frequency with him.
How to speak to him in a language that touches a primal inner part of his mind and become a constant source of excitement, interest, and pursuit for him.
When you know how to do this, you’ll be able to deeply connect with a man, and powerfully attract him.
Watch the video below to become irresistibly attractive to your man and create an incredible relationship starting today.