We’ve all been in relationships where we felt smothered by our partner, and can agree that while it may seem nice in the beginning, it eventually makes you want to run in the other direction. Let’s face it: no one is interested in a woman (or a man) who is incessantly texting, calling, and showing her wounded, attention-seeking insecurity.
Everyone enjoys a challenge as they pursue, and hopefully, win someone over – especially men! Understanding this concept is critically important in your quest to get your ex back. You must let him go if you ever hope to get him back.
How to Make Him Miss You and Want You Back
We’ve all heard the adage, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder,” because there is so much truth to it. There are many ways to make your ex miss you and want to try again, but first and foremost, you must give him space by not communicating with him at all. That way, he can work through the negative feelings he has that caused him break up with you.
There’s no way he can begin remembering and missing the good times you had, until he gets past the irritating times that caused the relationship to wane.
Will He Come Back if I Leave Him Alone?
Let’s say you have been needy and clingy with him because you have felt him pulling away from you. It’s an understandable reaction, but it will make him pull away even more. Now he has put an end to the relationship and said, “I think it’s time that we move on,” he will definitely not want to come back if you continue the behavior that drove him away in the first place.
If your goal is to move toward reconciliation, you simply must respect his request for space.
The break-up happened because he couldn’t deal with how the relationship was going; so, if things don’t change, there is not much hope. You both need time and space to get over your frustration and irritation so that positive memories from your past can break through to the surface again and remind him how much he misses you.
Let Him Chase You Again
If you feel like you’re losing him, it’s easy to panic and want to “latch on” for dear life, but that is the worst thing to do. There’s no thrill in chasing something that’s not moving. If you act needy and let your ex know you’ll bend over backward to do anything for him, he will lose interest.
To get your ex back, you must make him feel the thrill of the chase again. He felt it in the beginning when you were still deciding if you wanted to be with him; now you must rekindle those feelings by not being accessible all of the time.
The best way to do that is to not make him the center of attention; it’s fine to be interested, but definitely not obsessed. Obsession gives off a neediness vibe and is never attractive.
How to Make Someone Miss You – the Psychology
It’s human nature to want something that is challenging to acquire. When we have to work for things, we want them more and they are more meaningful to us once we get them. Relationships lose their allure because things are become routine and predictable, and there’s no perceived value in it anymore. The sure way to revive a relationship is to bring value back to it. But how do you do that?
How to Make Him Love You More? – The No Contact Rule Works!
When something is always there for us, we become blind to it, and start taking it for granted. In other words, we don’t value it as much.
The first thing to do after a break-up is to take an extended period where you have absolutely no contact of any kind with your ex. This time of no communication is a an extremely effective and proven psychological tactic that is important for both people. It is important to take time to give both of you the space you need to evaluate what went wrong, and most importantly, to understand what needs to change to make a reconciliation possible.
How Long Should I Give Him Space?
It is widely agreed that a minimum of 30 days is needed for the no-contact-rule to be effective. Sometimes a longer time is required, but never less than that four-week minimum. If you don’t stick to this rule completely during this time period, you will be sorry because it will diminish the effectiveness, and perhaps even sabotage your chances of getting back together.
Many women think that if they cut off all communication with an ex, it will cause him to move on and find someone else, and they will be quickly forgotten. But this fear is simply not true. You had a relationship that was successful for some time, and it was valuable to both of you. However, because of certain repeated behaviors that led to the break up, keeping the relationship going became more of a burden and no longer felt valuable.
How to Give Someone Space without Losing Them
You have to respect the space and time both of you need if you hope to reignite the feelings of love and adoration you enjoyed so much in the beginning.
If you do not give your partner this space, you may lose them forever.
Work on getting yourself in better shape:
– and physically
Not only will you feel better, but he will notice the changes in you and find you more irresistibly attractive again, because it will re-ignite the feelings of love that he felt for you in the beginning of your relationship.
Those feelings are still there, like hot coals under the ashes – all you need to do is to add fuel to fan them back to a burning flame of renewed desire.
Give Him Space to Fall in Love with You Again
Giving a man time and space is one of the best things you can do for him. When your relationship was working, you were both in a place of calm, relaxed happiness. Everyone loves the feel of this kind of relationship.
If you truly want to get back together with your ex, then give him the space he’s asking for – it will be good for both of you to reevaluate everything so that you can see clearly what it was that drew you to each other in the first place.
How Does True Love Come Back Together?
There are certainly plenty of stories about true love being re-ignited. Your chance to be part of one of those stories is much greater if you educate yourself about causes break-ups and how to successfully remove the things from the relationship that smothered the love so that it can rekindle and last a lifetime.
James Bauer’s program, His Secret Obsession, will help you do just that. You will not be sorry you invested in learning the proven skills that have helped hundreds of couples re-ignite their passion for each other. It will help you, too.
Jason Fladien is an author and relationship coach living in Toronto.
He used to struggle so much in his own love life that he decided to learn everything there is to achieve such level of understanding at which he’d not only be able to completely change his life but also help others to change theirs.
Now he’s on a mission to help others achieve effortless and happy relationships as he believes that relationships are the most important thing in life.