***Forgiveness says you are given another chance to make a new beginning.*** ∼ Desmond Tutu
If you have cheated on your girlfriend or boyfriend, we commend you for attempting this brave, but difficult, trek to get your love back.
To climb this mountain, you’ll run into obstacles that you will have to conquer, with the end result being a deeper bond of understanding than ever before through building renewed trust over time with your Ex.
Before you even attempt this journey, you are going to have to discover why you strayed, if you are truly ready to say, “I’m done cheating forever,” and can be honest with yourself that you will never go down that path again.
What are a Few Possible Reasons for Cheating on Someone You Love?
So many have gone before you, and yet this is your personal journey. I am sure that you are aware of many stories of celebrities, politicians, and even people of faith who have been in your shoes. We hope that you can find a way through the trials, heartache and pain you will and your partner will experience during this process.
Let’s look at the reasons why you may have drifted away and cheated. Only you can answer the questions as to why, but here are some common explanations:
The spur of the moment affair
This happens when someone gets a little carried away with the current situation.
There could be alcohol involved, and then opportunity knocks, and the door is opened. Someone catches your eye, and before you even realize what happened, you have gone too far. You hadn’t planned this to happen; it just did, and you wake up the next morning realizing that it was probably a mistake.
The relationship has grown old and you are bored
You no longer feel the attraction toward your love, and you are basically tired of trying.
This is more of a situation of needing to feel loved and attractive to someone new. Maybe that new flame seems exciting or seems to have more in common with you than your current boyfriend or girlfriend.
There is trouble in paradise and you no longer see eye to eye with your soon-to-be Ex
It’s not uncommon to seek others who can make you forget your struggles and relationship woes.
A new backdoor relationship might be what you feel you need to escape the problems at home. To avoid the real issue by escaping into a “honeymoon” relationship with someone who won’t fight with you and doesn’t have history to remind you of all of your “faults” can seem so appealing that you don’t want to resist the temptation.
Monogamy is not what it is cracked up to be and you are wondering if the grass is greener on the other side by cheating
Once you have met that special someone and the honeymoon stage is over, it can be hard to realize that you can never be “with” anyone else again.
Perhaps you didn’t think it through and you don’t feel that you have really sowed your wild oats enough.
There are other reasons that someone might cheat during a long-term relationship and, as stated, you are the only one who can answer this question for your own situation. We believe that there are some positive steps you can make toward mending your relationship, even after the truth is revealed and your partner knows you cheated.
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The Meaning of Infidelity – Is it Different for Men and Women?
Women and men may have different ideas of what the word infidelity means. Alfred Kinsey states that there are basically two types of infidelity.
Sexual infidelity
Most common with men, sexual infidelity can be triggered by many different factors including poor self-esteem, lack of moral intuitive, or boredom.
Emotional infidelity
This is a typical reason for women to stray. It could be caused by lack of emotional connection with their current boyfriend or a lack of self-confidence and control.
Both Partners Ask this Question: Can Cheaters Change?
You might be the one who cheated, thinking, “I feel so bad that I hurt the one person I truly love and who loves me. Is there hope for me that I can change?”
Or you might be the one whose partner cheated on you, thinking, “I love my Ex so much, but how can I ever trust him (or her) again? Is it possible for someone who cheated to really change?”
In Psychology Today there is an article about this very subject. It was written by someone who was the adulterer, which gives him the ability to articulate with confident insight on the reasons he had an affair. It sheds light on those who are on the other end of the relationship, and may help couples begin to understand what led to their current situation.
Cheaters can change, but only if they know the reasons why the cheating occurred, which will give them a guideline on how to avoid future slip-ups.
Can You Get Your Ex Back After You Cheated?
As we have stated in many of our other love blogs and relationship pages, recovering a relationship starts by doing what you need to do first. You have been walking down this road to destruction long enough. Time to take the high road and work on whatever caused you to stray in the first place.
YES, you can get your Ex back after cheating but you need to know EXACTLY how to do it and you must be willing to work on your own issues before you try to reconcile the relationship.
And if you REALLY want to succeed in re-establishing contact and renewing the most important relationship in your life…
And if you want him or her to feel that DESIRE and ATTRACTION for you again…
Then you have to watch this short video.
It reveals 3 critical facts that you must know before you try to reconcile the relationship.
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I Cheated On My Girlfriend. How Do I Fix It?
Let’s take a look at the story of Jackson who recently went through some of the same things you may be going through right now.